It seems that there is an epidemic of “dispositional pessimism.” What is that? Dispositional Pessimism is the tendency to keep your expectations very low in any situation so that you minimize your chances of being disappointed. Say for example, you get invited to a party and you imagine the people being boring, the food not up to par or too fattening, and you will be off in a corner by yourself. It’s a way to convince yourself either not to go or not to put much effort into having a good time. It looks at life as a string of disappointments and people as ultimately disappointing. But this tendency to see the dark side of everything is just a bad strategy that ruins relationships and even you
When a family member or friend suffers from depression your support, encouragement, and love can make all the difference. Remember that you also need to maintain your own emotional equilibrium. Depression is a life threatening but treatable disease that affects millions of people of all ages and walks of life. It not only hurts the individual suffering from depression but impacts everyone around them. If someone you love is depressed, you may be experiencing any number of difficult emotions, including helplessness, frustration, anger, fear, guilt, and sadness. These feelings are all normal. It’s not easy dealing with a friend or family member’s depression. And if you don’t take care of
So often we become distracted by all of the negatives that seem to surround us. It is so easy to list all of our failings, weaknesses, and faults. And even if we are trying to move on to a healthier and more positive frame of mind, there are plenty of people ready to remind us of all of our mistakes and errors. Where did we ever get the idea that focusing on faults would achieve anything but a feeling of discouragement? Why do we spend so much time reminding ourselves and others of failings, weaknesses, or lacks? Let’s change our approach from one of disease to one of health and focus on what can make us feel healthier, more vibrant, and more alive. According to www.helpguide.org someo
